Free Spirit for a Twentysomething + Older


A true “Inked” by DW from my latest doodle.

Free Spirit.  I think it’s a feeling that most people experience at some point in your life.  Why is it that it fades away for some as they get older, and for others, it defines who they are?

What is feeling ‘Free Spirited’? Think of the first time of riding your bike, with no hands.  Think of climbing the tallest trees with neighborhood friends, with no thought of how you would get down.  You are on a high branch in that tree…now try to remember what the fall felt like, as gravity pulled you down to the soft grass below. Exhilaration and laughter, no fear.

Perhaps one definition of a Free Spirit is someone that doesn’t let other people’s beliefs limit their way of living.   For those in their 20’s and 30’s, this season of life is a unique time to go about a free-spirited lifestyle.  Independent and free to make our own decisions after school, we find ourselves in a new or different place.  Some of us take jobs we like. For others, the job is a starting point to a goal we desire. With little to tie us down, we take more risks, are more flexible and have intense interests we want to pursue.

No matter what age, being ‘Free Spirited’ is an attitude, a mindset.  The mindset that mirrors your beliefs.  Beliefs lead to living out life, on your terms.

For the Free Spirited souls, it’s much about the small things in life.  It’s not just about a wanderlust soul traveling the world while sipping drinks with the locals of a colorful country.

It can show up in your everyday walk to work.  Your morning commute.  Or, your evening run.  Smaller moments and opportunities for the Free Spirited to smile, all while in your own company.  It’s movement, like a skip thrown in every 10th step, with no care whether people notice you or not.

How can you break-up our normal day-to-day and throw in some Free Spirited fun? Here are a few ideas:

-[Hot] Yoga.  With so many yoga classes available in every community, join with others to rid yourself of limiting negative self-chatter, relax and reflect.  Nothing better than a dose of an internal, even spiritual grounding, and a good sweat!

-Anything outdoors.  Move your body while being in nature, as it will allow for the cells in your body to remember a time, from years gone by, when you were Free Spirited.

-Music + Wine. Now Dance! It’s a trick of the trade of Free Spirits everywhere. All you need are your favorite jammin’ tunes (volume up) and a bit of wine.  Get movin’—close your eyes and dance like nobody is looking.

-[Abstract or not] Art.  You don’t need any artistic talent to express yourself by ‘playing’ with some form of art, just as you did when you were young. There is something about art that is very expressive, soothing, and releasing for the soul. It still is, but the added bonus is that practicing it regularly stimulates creative thought. If you feel stuck in a situation, or in your business, art can be solution to accessing the ‘next best idea’. It’s also the ultimate stress reliever for those of you who have a heavy dose of analytical thinking during your day.  Too much STEM education? Add Art and make it STEAM! It’s a better way to live a balanced and fun life.

Lastly, Free Spirits do what they feel nudged to do, in a responsible way.  For me, this means drinking red wine or Guinness. Frequent trips to Ireland.   Hiking the red rocks of Colorado.  Or cycling some of the best trails around Des Moines, Iowa (Free Spirits secret place to live).

To your Free Spirit and mine, let it last…

The Unfair Advantage: Part 2

I don’t do this much, nor have I specifically voiced some of these beliefs. But I’m going to speak to a familiar phrase I’ve used before.

My Unfair Advantage.

Let me begin.  Its nearly 2 years ago that I was writing a post as a thank you letter for my unfair advantage involving my entrepreneurial career.  And I will say that it’s catchy. My Unfair Advantage.  Everyone reads that and they want to know what makes my advantage so unfair that they can’t have it.  And of course, everyone wants to know. It’s addicting to our ever being.

And everyone, everywhere wants to know how to get it. But lets dissect this for a second.

We can all agree everyone is different.  We all have different motives and different aspirations for our lives.  We could have drastically different upbringings. Different jobs.  Paychecks.  And so on.

But the bridge between the “different” and getting to the unfair advantage comes down to one core thing.


So let’s think in the mind of how the Unfair Advantage would…

The daily thoughts.  Affirmations.  And of course, beliefs.

Side note: yes these are all conjured up by myself, hence why I think they’re the unfair advantage.  Lets begin…

  • I deserve to have nice things.
  • Money finds me easily.
  • I am loved and have so much love to give.
    I’m am always at the right place, at the right time, with the right people.
  • I love what I do while working with others that love what they do.
  • I have many great friends and fam that I surround myself with.
  • Big opportunities find me, continuously.
  • I meet and surround myself with people smarter than me and with whom I can learn from.
  • I can live anywhere I want to with my unlimited resources!
  • I genuinely care about people and get that back in return, tenfold.
  • People will tell a story of my smile…

So yes, these are just beliefs.  And may just look like sentences to some.  But the more you think and say them matter-of-factly, things start to change.  

It’s interesting.

And I may just end my note here.  As I think it’s important to leave before spelling it all out in Spaghetti O letters.  There’s something to be said of this Unfair Advantage…and yours.


(comments/beliefs welcomed)




A Note to Bikers.

Let’s talk about something I miss.  And yes.   I’ve missed blogging too.

But the true missipration.  Riding my bike, outside.


I think I’ve hit the mid Iowa winter funk and just miss picking up my bike and going for a spin all day on a Saturday.  And my favorite, no doubt is a solitary ride.   Just so much to slow down and see (even when your spinning 22/mph).  

There are so many great things that come to any biker’s mind while out on a ride.  Yet, the best times can be when there’s nothing on the radar.  Just a slate gray road ahead.   And every so often, the chance of crossing paths with a fellow biker ahead.  Thinking how both minds now have something to focus on, a quaint and quick hello.

 The shared passion of the slate gray.